I was thinking about a statistic I read, maybe from a post by Dr. Moss Lee, that stated girls are socialized to believe that expressing their opinions can be at the risk of being perceived as not being”nice”. As a woman, often described as nice this information held great significance for me. There is a sign in my office that reads,”Because nice matters”.I think I am going to replace it with one that reminds me that my opinion matters. I recognize the courage it can take to offer your opinion as a woman, especially a black woman. My most recent experience with a power structure characterized by white and male privilege found my insistence on being an advocate for those we served as too persistent. I was cautioned to be nice. I chose to stand in the truth of my opinion and was silenced. Although the transition has being life changing, I do not regret that decision and find strength in my ability to be a role model for all the little girls in my life that I love.
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I have transversed my journey in the world as a black woman. Living every day in a society that highly values white and male privilege, I have enjoyed neither. As such, I have amassed a unique set of experiences. It is my intention to share these experiences with other souls. Hopefully highlighting those things that make us different and the same. View all posts by stephvpalmer